Save Your Relationship Using These 7 Steps

You work long hours a day, probably gets home tired most of the time and your wife feels you are not there for her anymore. Your wife spends most of the time meeting the kid's needs and you feel she is not there for you anymore. Can this relationship be saved and how can you save this relationship. Here's how to save a relationship.

Both parties must decide they want to make the relationship work in the first place. If a partner has opted out and does not want to opt back in, there's little that can be done in that case. The relationship has to be worth saving. Almost every relationship can be saved with hard work and commitment to do so from both parties.

Staying in a relationship or marriage because of convenience or because of the children is not enough to save a relationship. Commitment from both parties is absolutely necessary if the relationship is worth saving.

What is the problem or problems in a relationship? You have to identify what the cause of the problem is and not the symptoms of the problem itself. It's easier to save when the cause can be identified.

If there is no intimacy in a relationship, it can lead to one of the partners being involved in an affair outside the marriage or relationship. The symptom in this case is not the affair, but the lack of true intimacy that led to one of the partner having an affair. If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you may not be able to deal with what will result from it, which is an affair. True intimacy might just be the solution to that affair your partner is engaged in.

When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, you can save the relationship.

Now that you have identified what the problem is and not just the symptoms, it is time to start putting your thoughts into action by sharing with your partner the how to solve the problem. You have to be sensitive to your partners concerns. When you discuss the problems with your partner, hold your partners hand as a signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling. Don't be hurt when your partner says things that normally would have hurt you, remember, he or she does not want to hurt you; rather it is because they want to improve the relationship.

It's time to create an action plan to solve the problems you have now identified. Take concrete steps on your action plan. If the problem has been that you don't have enough time for each other, it is time to make out a day once every week to spend together. Take turns to come up with creative ways to spend your evening together once a week. Make out time just talking to one another if the problem was lack of communication, maybe 20minutes before going to bed.

Realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process; there will always be times of laughter and tears as you attempt to save your relationship. But you have to make a commitment to continue to bring out the best in your relationship. Be quick to apologize and slow to blame.

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